Rick Farrell’s article Pain Locator Questions is on target in his fine examples of how to build rapport with questioning skills. I think you'll like it as much as I did.
Pain Locator Questions
Since for all intents and purposes prospects could care less about you and your company, the pain locator questions are a great way to put all the emphasis and focus on prospects. These questions are an excellent tool to use to build rapport; create a long-term relationship built on trust and confidence; build a business case instead of just a product justification; and save time, energy and resources by quickly identifying your prospect’s problems, consequences, commitments, priorities and motivations to change.
The depth of these questions underscores the tenet that there are many ways to skin a cat. I have listed, obviously more than necessary, the questions you may use to gain insight and understanding of your prospects’ problems and pains. Generally 5-10 questions will suffice. When I have my clients in my training sessions list out all their own diagnostic questions, they can usually go no deeper than 2 questions, if that! The process of asking these in-depth questions is essentially alien to them. The beauty of these questions is that it forces you to do all the things that make a great salesperson: empathize, listen, demonstrate care and expertise, and most importantly, exude trust.
These questions are to follow when a prospect states a problem or a concern in their business. Your job as a salesperson is to understand the full extent of your prospect’s problems and help them understand if the timing is right for them to act on it.